Fostering is defined by gradual changes and moments of trust, not one big event, according to Katie Brougham, a foster carer and manager at North East Lincolnshire Council. She highlights how seeing a child light up at their first football session or grow in confidence as they begin to trust adults are often the most meaningful breakthroughs.
Katie, who has worked with children throughout her career, including as a designated teacher for children in care, felt drawn to fostering for many years. Combined with her family's connection to care, the decision to open her home with her partner, Darren, felt destined. "I felt like we were destined to do it," she said. "If we can give any child the future they deserve, and the childhood that every child deserves, then that’s something really special."
She cherishes quieter moments, such as taking a young boy in her care to his first football session. "Seeing how happy he was and watching him completely light up doing something he loved made everything worthwhile." Another milestone was when the boy, who initially stayed in his room, knocked on their bedroom door one day, signifying a deep trust.
Katie also credits the support from North East Lincolnshire Council for helping her balance fostering with her career. Senior leaders, including her service director and line manager, have provided understanding and reassurance, fostering an environment where her role as a foster carer is valued. "My line manager has been brilliant. When things change or a new child is moving in, she’ll check in and ask how things are going. It’s not about one big gesture. It’s about knowing people genuinely care."
She believes this culture reflects the council's commitment to fostering, stating, "Fostering isn’t just a tokenistic gesture here. People really do live and breathe it." For those considering fostering, Katie encourages them to explore the possibility if they have the capacity to care for a child in need.
“"From the moment a child walks through your door, you want them to know they are wanted, loved and have people cheering them on."
Ann-Marie Matson, Director of Children’s Services at North East Lincolnshire Council, praised Katie's story, emphasising the impact of everyday moments. "Helping a child feel safe enough to knock on a bedroom door, try a new activity or simply be themselves can be life-changing," she said. The council is urgently seeking more foster carers to ensure children can remain close to their communities.
For more information about fostering for NEL, call 01472 323966, email fosteringandadoption@nelincs.gov.uk, or visit https://www.nelincs.gov.uk/fostering.
